(My fourth topic for discussion with Bod)

(Attitude -> A small thing that makes a big difference)

Global warming, deforestation, greenhouse effect, climate change, air pollution and many more such problems… The human race has wrecked it all. Who else is responsible for the contamination of air, water and food? This human race is! Humans have overexploited the nature to an extent that today we have to bear its consequences too. There were times, when we had more trees than cars. But today, we get to see motorbikes and cars more than trees. There were times, when little kids used to play around the trees, accompanied by chattering of squirrels and chirping of birds but today, all we hear is, honking of vehicles and hammering at a construction site, various species of birds and animals have suffered extinction and many are in danger of extinction and many such things have changed with time. But is this a desirable change?

Well, it’s true that we have developed a lot in term of technology and other fields but my question is what sort of attitude we possess towards our nature. I wonder, if humans keep on treating nature the same way, for how long our mother nature will tolerate this?

‘GIVE AND TAKE’ that’s the principle to live in harmony. But all we did is take away and never gave back; and taking without giving is called stealing. Hence, we stole everything from our mother nature and never gave back anything. Not that our nature asked for it. Nature is for sure self-sustainable but will it be able to cope up if we keep on overexploiting it?

What Attitude do we humans carry towards nature? The attitude of STEALING?!

I read it somewhere that everything in this world is connected in some way to every other thing. What I see in this world, is a part of me and what I see in me is a part of this world. Is it okay for me to blame any other human for the condition of our nature? Am I not responsible for what has gone wrong? Instead of blaming someone else, did I ever do anything to reciprocate the nature’s love? In my case, I have used paper made from trees, I use furniture made from wood, I consume the fruits and vegetables but never ever I planted a single tree in my life. How can I blame someone else, when I myself possess this attitude of STEALING and not GIVE AND TAKE?

I went to my guru to address this issue and he explained so beautifully to me that, “Nowadays, the scenario is such that, we focus more on negativities. Optimism and empathy is shrinking and our attitude towards everything in life has become conserved. We take more and give less and the condition of Mother Nature is just one of the examples where we always take and never give back. The same attitude we portray for various aspects of our life where we wish for more and more and are never satisfied and thankful for what we already have. This leads to anger, frustration and tension that we expect more and do less”. Then my guru asked me, when was the last time, I appreciated someone for their love and care. This question made me wonder because I hardly thank my mom and dad for things they have done for me. My guru made me realize that today, Most of us are constantly cribbing and complaining about things we don’t have, instead of appreciating and being thankful for what we have. Due to this attitude only, when I was talking about the nature, I was blaming the entire human race except myself.

So, I asked my guru, how can I change myself to be a better version of myself and how can I be more positive and empathetic towards everyone and everything. With a beautiful smile on his face, he replied, “by adopting the ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE“. I asked with curiosity, what this attitude of gratitude is, and the reply was, “The realisation from deep within that whatever we possess is a gift to us by others and being thankful and happy for what we have is Attitude of Gratitude“.

{Our parents gave birth to us, showered us with their love and care, provided us food and shelter, sacrificed their needs just to fulfil our demands. This nature gave us the air to breath, water to drink and food to eat, and a lot more things. Similarly, our friends and teachers help us in various aspects of life… but how many times, do we acknowledge the role of others in our life? We simply ask others to mind their own business, forgetting that, we won’t be able to survive if everybody around us truly starts minding their own business…. such is the role of others in our lives!}.

Attitude of Gratitude is making it a habit to be thankful for every small and big thing in our life. He (my guru) told me that, life will never be fair and that there will always be positivities and negativities surrounding us. What we generally do is, if something bad happens to us, we get consumed in it, forgetting every beautiful thing that has ever happened to us.

“when you cannot laugh on the same joke again and again…
then why do you cry again and again on the same worry”

~Charlie Chaplin

ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE teaches us to get consumed in positive and deal with negative. It not only teaches us to thank the almighty god to give us a gift of life; but it also teaches us to present a gift to god by living this life beautifully. Hence, Attitude of Gratitude, teaches us the beauty of GIVE AND TAKE. This new year, my resolution is, to enculcate this attitude of gratitude in me and to express my gratitude to the god by living this life beautifully.



(My third topic for discussion with my friend Bod).

 This simple four lettered word is the hardest to define.

When the broils and disturbances in the society are reaching their peak. When people are ready to kill each other in the name of God. When science is being used against humanity, the only thing that has managed to tie us together is LOVE. This human race has managed to survive just because of one thing that still is present around (i.e. LOVE). I consider myself lucky that I witness the presence of love around me on daily basis. 🙂

  • I have seen kids, saying every now and then, how much they love their parents.
  • I have seen parents sacrificing their desires to fulfill the dreams of their children.
  • I have seen friends sharing that bond of love. I have seen spouses caring for each other.
  • I have seen people feeding stray animals. I have seen people, donating for the less fortunate ones.
  • I have seen people using science for mankind and not for manufacturing nuclear bombs.

I think, this love and compassion, I’m surrounded with is the only reason of my existence and so of the entire human race.

The problem of this 21st century love is, it’s perceived as a complete selfish desire and when we treat it as a complete selfish desire, we start expecting unrealistically with others and too much expectations are meant to be broken, which in turn give rise to frustration, jealousy, anger, depression, etc. and then people blame it on innocent love and say LOVE IS EVOL (love is evil). It’s not love, that’s evil; it’s our own selfish nature that makes us think so!

Have you ever seen love as a selfless service? Have you ever met strangers and empathised to them while they pour their hearts out to you? or have you served people at old age home and spend a day with them? or Have you ever fed a stray dog and felt happy while he wag his tail towards you? Have you ever become the shoulder for others to cry on? If yes, then tell me, that bond of love and compassion you shared in all of the above cases, does it sound evil to you at all?

Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that.

Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.

                                                                                               ~Martin Luther King

Love is that candle that has the power to light up the whole room, no matter how dark it is. It is that medicine that has the potential to cure any ailment. Hence, I strongly feel that to experience the divine LOVE, we should try to rise above our selfish desire and perceive it as a selfless entity. I know that we are human beings and we cannot accept something without any selfish motives. However, we can try, step by step to engage ourselves in selfless service and in this dog eat dog world, we can at least try to contribute to make this place a little less cruel and a little more hopeful.


It’s my second topic for discussion with my friend Bod. The content is aimed at most of the private colleges in my country where marks are more important than creativity.


To understand the modern day education system, I guess, we must gain a better insight of, what education is!

Few famous (and indeed my favourite) quotes describing education, are:

Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one learned in school.   ~ Albert Einstein.

Education is not the preparation of life; education is life itself.   ~John Dewey.

Different perceptions lead to different definitions and according to me, no perception is right or wrong. Each is simply different and unique.

As a child, there were a few questions about education which frequently used to bother me. They were:

  • Why we educate ourselves?
  •  Why do we go to schools and colleges, when all we want is, to land a job? I mean, I can land a job even without wasting these many years of mine on educating myself. Isn’t it?!

Gradually, I figured out something and being a science student helped me to understand it even better. I learned that in this universe, everything seeks stability. From a small ion to a huge star, everything in this cosmos wants to achieve the most optimum level of energy and stabilize itself.


1. Friction ensures that things don’t move forever and can achieve stability in motion.

2. An ion reacts to achieve a stable atomic configuration.

3. A human being wants to earn money to achieve a stable lifestyle.

So, the basic principal behind every single action on this planet is to gain stability of some kind. Isn’t it so?

And I think, it won’t be wrong to say that Knowledge stabilizes our intellect, and a stable intellect certainly knows, how to channelise the inner-energy flow in the most optimum way so as to bring out the most productive results or in simple words, I could say that a stable intellect knows the art of living.

According to me, education is the process of acquiring knowledge.

Our modern day education system of schools and colleges, is teaching our children to be tough and active in this age of competition. It teaches them to crack any exam and get a higher paying job and there is nothing wrong in that because most of the focus of  our system(especially in my country) is to help the students achieve a lifestyle.

I agree that never before did human race progress (with new discoveries and inventions) like our modern day human being. But, in this competitive age, we might have learned to achieve a lifestyle (which is undoubtedly important) but haven’t we forgotten to have a life? I agree that we have learned to compete but haven’t we forgotten to contribute?

All the depression, stress and tension in this busy world let us survive but do not let us live.

I studied about a few ancient methodologies of teaching and realized that to yield a better personality out of a person, we must include value education as an integral part of our curriculum.

Finally, I believe that education doesn’t begin at school but at home itself and that we should let our children acquire knowledge from a very young age. Unfortunately, we provide them with information and not knowledge. I often notice, people teaching their toddlers about what is good/bad or what is right or wrong, but I strongly feel that in this way, the child loses its ability to figure out things by itself. I agree that, providing them information is important but overfeeding them with information is in no way helping them. Instead of teaching our children about what is right or wrong, we must tell them, why we feel that something’s right or wrong and should give them their own space and time to figure things out by themselves.

Similar thing happens in some schools and colleges, where we mostly feed them with already existing facts and figures and doesn’t give the students much space and time to figure out and question things.

Even with our so-called modern education system, we face broils and disturbances in the society and the sole reason behind this is the preconceived notions we are feeding our young generation with (preconceived notions of race, religion, caste, creed, love, beauty, etc.).

There is a fine line between information and knowledge (my guru told me this).

Information is what others feed us with, and knowledge is when we ourselves come up with a practical use of that information using our own intellect.                                                                      ~Prof. S.k. Mahajan

So, to really educate our children, we must encourage them to acquire knowledge and must stop over-feeding them with preconceived notions .


It’s my first topic for discussion with my friend Bod. I’ve defined self-confidence by relating it with something that I feel constitute an important part of human existence. I’ve tried my best to blend in all colours and come out with the best definition I could. 🙂

Self-confidence. I see two separate words there. ‘Self’ and ‘confidence’. Most of us know, what confidence is, but only a rare proportion understands ‘self’.

Confidence is an expression or feeling of certainty about an action or activity (from dictionary), but that definition isn’t enough to define self-confidence.

Let’s take a deeper insight to know this ‘self’.

Question: what is ‘self’? Answer: That’s you.

Confidence within self means, the confidence you possess within you. (Confused?!)

Okay, what would you answer if I ask you to define yourself? I’m sure, you’ll tell me your name first, and then maybe about your age or job profile, etc. but then where are you in all this? Ask yourself, who am I?My name, age, job, etc. all has significance until my body is functioning. After my body stops functioning, none of that will define me. So, does it mean that I’m nothing but just this ‘body’? No, I certainly am not just this body or at least there is something I’m missing out. Our body is constantly changing. Its size, interests, attributes, etc. all varies with time. How can I associate myself with such an uncertain and inconsistent thing (body)?

Thousands of years ago, evolution started flicking its magic wand, giving us a lot, along with some beautiful historical scriptures by primitive men (I’m talking about Gita, Quran, Bible and many more such scriptures), and you know, even though these scriptures were written at different times, languages and places, the most beautiful thing about them is how well they all have the same definitions about the ‘Self’. All of them don’t confine the human reality mere to this body but something unseen, eternal, mystic and divine. Something that cannot be created, nor can be destroyed, something that can’t be burned or torn apart. In different cultures, it is called with different names but with no doubt, all of them refers to the same (same thing i.e. soul).

Soul is this ever-sustaining energy within me and you, which energises all our activities and thus actions. Don’t believe me? Tell me, Is your brand new, designer TV or mobile phone, of any use without electricity? Any device, no matter how beautiful it looks, is useless and incapable, unless it is energised with electricity. You can’t see electricity but you know it is there! And I feel that’s the same thing our soul does but on a more conscious and powerful level.

So, if I have to define self, I’ll say, It’s the real me, the ever-existing me, the indestructible and the most powerful me! And self-confidence is nothing but this unwavering belief in ‘self’ (i.e. the faith in your inner energy). 🙂

I read it somewhere that, it’s not just what you learn that helps you to grow your skills but it is also your dedication towards your Master/ Teacher (Guru) that decides how well you’ll grasp that skill. When you’ve deep faith in someone, you automatically, never do ill to them. When a student truly dedicates himself to his master, his perseverance towards his master’s teachings is unstoppable.
When you possess self-confidence, it implies that you believe the master in you and you are truly dedicated to your inner energy. When you’ve self-confidence i.e. confidence in ‘self’, this employs faith in ‘self’ and when you inculcate deep faith in ‘self’, a very positive aura surrounds you and things are no more a challenge but an opportunity to you. You’re more conscious about your actions and never ill-treat yourself. You automatically gain strength and courage because now your energy is channelized in the most optimum way to bring out the best in you. One may have observed that a person inflicted with self-confidence, is not afraid and take up situations (instances) of life, not as challenges but opportunities. I feel that this happens because such a person doesn’t find him alone. He believes in the Master in him and he finds his master (which is his inner energy) holding his hands and never leaving him. Who can frighten or challenge a person with such a powerful and limitless master? Such a personality is always ready to learn, grow and transform. He is not confined to any comfort zone.

Self-confidence is an attribute. It’s an asset. It’s not the confidence in any of the external factors but the confidence or faith you have in your ‘self’.

When your faith in your ‘self’ doesn’t fade, you become self-confident.

It is this self-confidence that did not stop Stephan hawking to become the world-renowned scientist even after being physically paralysed. It’s the same self-confidence that didn’t stop the journey of Bear Grylls on strange Himalayas and bizarre deserts, to becoming a TV global star, after fighting from his broken back in a skydiving adventure from 16,000 feet off the ground (in 1996).

Now, I’d like to tell you why I associated all this with our soul. The reason behind, why I took an insight of the soul here because, I feel that almost every human being on this planet realises the importance of self-confidence. People understand that one must possess it but do not understand where it originates from and hence objectify the self-confidence and relates it to the outer (physical) beauty. Why else, do you think that people strive to look beautiful all the time? Here I’m focusing on the misleading social norms that make us believe that body attributes are crucial for self-confidence. Brands around us are constantly selling products, showcasing how it enhances our self-confidence.

I’m definitely not saying that looking good is of no point or it doesn’t enhance your confidence. All I’m saying is, in this race to achieve our body goals, we must not forget that self-confidence is more about who you are, than how you look. In this race to look beautiful, we must not forget to feel beautiful. 🙂

she’s her own hero

vector girl with raised hands and broken chainsUnseen, untold and kept in dark

unidentified, unbearable, blind and sharp

untitled – her life, unexplained – her pain

trying hard to set free, but all in vain.

who cares, these lines are hearty and hale

a life, surrounded by dangerous sharks and whales

her cries, only walls could hear

a life, enclosed by sadness and fear

besides all the nightmares, threatening to kill

besides all the tears, threatening to spill

she stands up for her, her soul is divine

she shines like a priceless diamond in a worthless coal mine

no matter how dark and gloomy is the night’s impact

her aura is enough to destroy it’s effect

for this beautiful flower till now was a bud

the time has come to blossom through the mud


I know, it’s supposed to be all ‘Rosy’ but Roses come with their ‘Thorns’!


So, I don’t know, why did I think about writing this, but here I am, telling you about this guy I met a few months ago. He was this great person with whom you can talk for the whole day without getting bored. I met him through a mutual friend. With time, we got along really well and I found him quite reliable. It was all cool and I kind of started liking him even more and then one day, he proposed to me 🙂 and yes, I accepted his proposal and we are now officially together.  🙂

People, I seriously don’t have any intention to drive you nuts from my relationship story. So, let’s cut to the chase and get it straight. Before I start, i would like to acknowledge that sometimes, things don’t work out the way we want them to. Sometimes, we portray perfection too much. Sometimes, things just don’t fall into place but,  that is where we need to change the angle of our perception and understand that this is where the real beauty lies. 🙂

So, my boyfriend and I were having this short conversation about relationships and I figured out that he is the one who believes in having those so-called ‘perfect relationships‘. What he thinks is, that a real relationship (or his so-called perfect relationship) is the one in which a couple doesn’t get involved in fights at all. He says that, he expects a lot from me regarding this and wants this sort of understanding with me, so that no fight occurs and we get along well through thick and thin and be this amazing couple thing (Whoosh!). He often tries to escape the topics that he thinks might lead to arguments (by skipping them altogether or by starting a whole new conversation). Although, we had a very few fights but the ending always left me confused. There is only sorry but no solution. It’s like after a small fight, it’s simply a sorry and he never tries to get back to the topic and hence we are left with no solution at all.   I respect him but here, I simply don’t believe in his whole lot of ‘perfection thing andhappily-ever-after fairy tale concept. I mean, all I want is, him to understand the ‘beauty of imperfection‘ here.

I mean, tell me this, can you give me a single example of any best friends or  any amazing couple who never ever had a fight? can you? No! I guess and that’s where the beauty lies. Pardon me if you’re getting me wrong here. When I’m referring to fights, it’s not the one like throwing each other’s stuff out of the apartment or yelling bad words to each other and I’m also not saying that even if there’s no point of arguing, you still have to get started. All I’m saying is, these little cute fights and arguments have their unique roles in our life and sometimes, careful steps following them, make a relationship even stronger. 🙂  like Jay Sean says “I know it’s supposed to be all rosy but roses come with their thorns (worth it all)” 🙂 Fights are inevitable in a relationship and rather than escaping a topic every time, fearing that it would lead to a fight, we should just try to act mature and face it and enjoy it’s bitter-sweet results. I mean, that’s how the life goes on. You can’t enjoy the good days without having the bad ones. We must realize that these little fights are necessary because they give you a reflection of your maturity level in a relationship. We will have to be an optimist and perceive these fights and arguments as a kind of test which we’ve to take to mold ourselves into our better versions for our better halves.

Amazing couples are definitely not those who escape topics just to avoid fights but those who act mature, understand each other’s choices and opinions even if they are polar opposite and try to find the best alternative solutions to resolve any conflict. Adjustment is the key here (and there is a huge difference between adjustments and compromise). If we will keep escaping things to save ourselves from arguments just for the sake of ‘happily-ever-after’, then trust me, we won’t actually be happy ever after. We must understand that all of us share similarities and differences, and with so many similarities and differences, fights are inevitable.

Let’s embrace each other’s similarities and value the differences, and let’s learn something valuable from every fight so that the next time we fight, it’s not on the same topic (or issue) 😛