It’s my second topic for discussion with my friend Bod. The content is aimed at most of the private colleges in my country where marks are more important than creativity.


To understand the modern day education system, I guess, we must gain a better insight of, what education is!

Few famous (and indeed my favourite) quotes describing education, are:

Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one learned in school.   ~ Albert Einstein.

Education is not the preparation of life; education is life itself.   ~John Dewey.

Different perceptions lead to different definitions and according to me, no perception is right or wrong. Each is simply different and unique.

As a child, there were a few questions about education which frequently used to bother me. They were:

  • Why we educate ourselves?
  •  Why do we go to schools and colleges, when all we want is, to land a job? I mean, I can land a job even without wasting these many years of mine on educating myself. Isn’t it?!

Gradually, I figured out something and being a science student helped me to understand it even better. I learned that in this universe, everything seeks stability. From a small ion to a huge star, everything in this cosmos wants to achieve the most optimum level of energy and stabilize itself.


1. Friction ensures that things don’t move forever and can achieve stability in motion. 

2. An ion reacts to achieve a stable atomic configuration.

3. A human being wants to earn money to achieve a stable lifestyle.

So, the basic principal behind every single action on this planet is to gain stability of some kind. Isn’t it so?

And I think, it won’t be wrong to say that Knowledge stabilizes our intellect, and a stable intellect certainly knows, how to channelise the inner-energy flow in the most optimum way so as to bring out the most productive results or in simple words, I could say that a stable intellect knows the art of living.

According to me, education is the process of acquiring knowledge.

Our modern day education system of schools and colleges, is teaching our children to be tough and active in this age of competition. It teaches them to crack any exam and get a higher paying job and there is nothing wrong in that because most of the focus of  our system(especially in my country) is to help the students achieve a lifestyle. 

I agree that never before did human race progress (with new discoveries and inventions) like our modern day human being. But, in this competitive age, we might have learned to achieve a lifestyle (which is undoubtedly important) but haven’t we forgotten to have a life? I agree that we have learned to compete but haven’t we forgotten to contribute?

All the depression, stress and tension in this busy world let us survive but do not let us live.

I studied about a few ancient methodologies of teaching and realized that to yield a better personality out of a person, we must include value education as an integral part of our curriculum.

Finally, I believe that education doesn’t begin at school but at home itself and that we should let our children acquire knowledge from a very young age. Unfortunately, we provide them with information and not knowledge. I often notice, people teaching their toddlers about what is good/bad or what is right or wrong, but I strongly feel that in this way, the child loses its ability to figure out things by itself. I agree that, providing them information is important but overfeeding them with information is in no way helping them. Instead of teaching our children about what is right or wrong, we must tell them, why we feel that something’s right or wrong and should give them their own space and time to figure things out by themselves. 

Similar thing happens in some schools and colleges, where we mostly feed them with already existing facts and figures and doesn’t give the students much space and time to figure out and question things.

Even with our so-called modern education system, we face broils and disturbances in the society and the sole reason behind this is the preconceived notions we are feeding our young generation with (preconceived notions of race, religion, caste, creed, love, beauty, etc.).

There is a fine line between information and knowledge (my guru told me this).

Information is what others feed us with, and knowledge is when we ourselves come up with a practical use of that information using our own intellect.                                                   ~Prof. S.k. Mahajan

So, to really educate our children, we must encourage them to acquire knowledge and must stop over-feeding them with preconceived notions .



It’s my first topic for discussion with my friend Bod. I’ve defined self-confidence by relating it with something that I feel constitute an important part of human existence. I’ve tried my best to blend in all colours and come out with the best definition I could. 🙂

Self-confidence. I see two separate words there. ‘Self’ and ‘confidence’. Most of us know, what confidence is, but only a rare proportion understands ‘self’. 

Confidence is an expression or feeling of certainty about an action or activity (from dictionary), but that definition isn’t enough to define self-confidence. 

Let’s take a deeper insight to know this ‘self’.

Question: what is ‘self’? Answer: That’s you.

Confidence within self means, the confidence you possess within you. (Confused?!)

Okay, what would you answer if I ask you to define yourself? I’m sure, you’ll tell me your name first, and then maybe about your age or job profile, etc. but then where are you in all this? Ask yourself, who am I?My name, age, job, etc. all has significance until my body is functioning. After my body stops functioning, none of that will define me. So, does it mean that I’m nothing but just this ‘body’? No, I certainly am not just this body or at least there is something I’m missing out. Our body is constantly changing. Its size, interests, attributes, etc. all varies with time. How can I associate myself with such an uncertain and inconsistent thing (body)?

Thousands of years ago, evolution started flicking its magic wand, giving us a lot, along with some beautiful historical scriptures by primitive men (I’m talking about Gita, Quran, Bible and many more such scriptures), and you know, even though these scriptures were written at different times, languages and places, the most beautiful thing about them is how well they all have the same definitions about the ‘Self’. All of them don’t confine the human reality mere to this body but something unseen, eternal, mystic and divine. Something that cannot be created, nor can be destroyed, something that can’t be burned or torn apart. In different cultures, it is called with different names but with no doubt, all of them refers to the same (same thing i.e. soul).

Soul is this ever-sustaining energy within me and you, which energises all our activities and thus actions. Don’t believe me? Tell me, Is your brand new, designer TV or mobile phone, of any use without electricity? Any device, no matter how beautiful it looks, is useless and incapable, unless it is energised with electricity. You can’t see electricity but you know it is there! And I feel that’s the same thing our soul does but on a more conscious and powerful level. 

So, if I have to define self, I’ll say, It’s the real me, the ever-existing me, the indestructible and the most powerful me! And self-confidence is nothing but this unwavering belief in ‘self’ (i.e. the faith in your inner energy). 🙂

I read it somewhere that, it’s not just what you learn that helps you to grow your skills but it is also your dedication towards your Master/ Teacher (Guru) that decides how well you’ll grasp that skill. When you’ve deep faith in someone, you automatically, never do ill to them. When a student truly dedicates himself to his master, his perseverance towards his master’s teachings is unstoppable.
When you possess self-confidence, it implies that you believe the master in you and you are truly dedicated to your inner energy. When you’ve self-confidence i.e. confidence in ‘self’, this employs faith in ‘self’ and when you inculcate deep faith in ‘self’, a very positive aura surrounds you and things are no more a challenge but an opportunity to you. You’re more conscious about your actions and never ill-treat yourself. You automatically gain strength and courage because now your energy is channelized in the most optimum way to bring out the best in you. One may have observed that a person inflicted with self-confidence, is not afraid and take up situations (instances) of life, not as challenges but opportunities. I feel that this happens because such a person doesn’t find him alone. He believes in the Master in him and he finds his master (which is his inner energy) holding his hands and never leaving him. Who can frighten or challenge a person with such a powerful and limitless master? Such a personality is always ready to learn, grow and transform. He is not confined to any comfort zone. 

Self-confidence is an attribute. It’s an asset. It’s not the confidence in any of the external factors but the confidence or faith you have in your ‘self’.

When your faith in your ‘self’ doesn’t fade, you become self-confident

It is this self-confidence that did not stop Stephan hawking to become the world-renowned scientist even after being physically paralysed. It’s the same self-confidence that didn’t stop the journey of Bear Grylls on strange Himalayas and bizarre deserts, to becoming a TV global star, after fighting from his broken back in a skydiving adventure from 16,000 feet off the ground (in 1996).

Now, I’d like to tell you why I associated all this with our soul. The reason behind, why I took an insight of the soul here because, I feel that almost every human being on this planet realises the importance of self-confidence. People understand that one must possess it but do not understand where it originates from and hence objectify the self-confidence and relates it to the outer (physical) beauty. Why else, do you think that people strive to look beautiful all the time? Here I’m focusing on the misleading social norms that make us believe that body attributes are crucial for self-confidence. Brands around us are constantly selling products, showcasing how it enhances our self-confidence.

I’m definitely not saying that looking good is of no point or it doesn’t enhance your confidence. All I’m saying is, in this race to achieve our body goals, we must not forget that self-confidence is more about who you are, than how you look. In this race to look beautiful, we must not forget to feel beautiful. 🙂

she’s her own hero

vector girl with raised hands and broken chainsUnseen, untold and kept in dark

unidentified, unbearable, blind and sharp

untitled – her life, unexplained – her pain

trying hard to set free, but all in vain.

who cares, these lines are hearty and hale

a life, surrounded by dangerous sharks and whales

her cries, only walls could hear

a life, enclosed by sadness and fear

besides all the nightmares, threatening to kill

besides all the tears, threatening to spill

she stands up for her, her soul is divine

she shines like a priceless diamond in a worthless coal mine

no matter how dark and gloomy is the night’s impact

her aura is enough to destroy it’s effect

for this beautiful flower till now was a bud

the time has come to blossom through the mud


I know, it’s supposed to be all ‘Rosy’ but Roses come with their ‘Thorns’!


So, I don’t know, why did I think about writing this, but here I am, telling you about this guy I met a few months ago. He was this great person with whom you can talk for the whole day without getting bored. I met him through a mutual friend. With time, we got along really well and I found him quite reliable. It was all cool and I kind of started liking him even more and then one day, he proposed to me 🙂 and yes, I accepted his proposal and we are now officially together.  🙂

People, I seriously don’t have any intention to drive you nuts from my relationship story. So, let’s cut to the chase and get it straight. Before I start, i would like to acknowledge that sometimes, things don’t work out the way we want them to. Sometimes, we portray perfection too much. Sometimes, things just don’t fall into place but,  that is where we need to change the angle of our perception and understand that this is where the real beauty lies. 🙂

So, my boyfriend and I were having this short conversation about relationships and I figured out that he is the one who believes in having those so-called ‘perfect relationships‘. What he thinks is, that a real relationship (or his so-called perfect relationship) is the one in which a couple doesn’t get involved in fights at all. He says that, he expects a lot from me regarding this and wants this sort of understanding with me, so that no fight occurs and we get along well through thick and thin and be this amazing couple thing (Whoosh!). He often tries to escape the topics that he thinks might lead to arguments (by skipping them altogether or by starting a whole new conversation). Although, we had a very few fights but the ending always left me confused. There is only sorry but no solution. It’s like after a small fight, it’s simply a sorry and he never tries to get back to the topic and hence we are left with no solution at all.   I respect him but here, I simply don’t believe in his whole lot of ‘perfection thing andhappily-ever-after fairy tale concept. I mean, all I want is, him to understand the ‘beauty of imperfection‘ here.

I mean, tell me this, can you give me a single example of any best friends or  any amazing couple who never ever had a fight? can you? No! I guess and that’s where the beauty lies. Pardon me if you’re getting me wrong here. When I’m referring to fights, it’s not the one like throwing each other’s stuff out of the apartment or yelling bad words to each other and I’m also not saying that even if there’s no point of arguing, you still have to get started. All I’m saying is, these little cute fights and arguments have their unique roles in our life and sometimes, careful steps following them, make a relationship even stronger. 🙂  like Jay Sean says “I know it’s supposed to be all rosy but roses come with their thorns (worth it all)” 🙂 Fights are inevitable in a relationship and rather than escaping a topic every time, fearing that it would lead to a fight, we should just try to act mature and face it and enjoy it’s bitter-sweet results. I mean, that’s how the life goes on. You can’t enjoy the good days without having the bad ones. We must realize that these little fights are necessary because they give you a reflection of your maturity level in a relationship. We will have to be an optimist and perceive these fights and arguments as a kind of test which we’ve to take to mold ourselves into our better versions for our better halves.

Amazing couples are definitely not those who escape topics just to avoid fights but those who act mature, understand each other’s choices and opinions even if they are polar opposite and try to find the best alternative solutions to resolve any conflict. Adjustment is the key here (and there is a huge difference between adjustments and compromise). If we will keep escaping things to save ourselves from arguments just for the sake of ‘happily-ever-after’, then trust me, we won’t actually be happy ever after. We must understand that all of us share similarities and differences, and with so many similarities and differences, fights are inevitable.

Let’s embrace each other’s similarities and value the differences, and let’s learn something valuable from every fight so that the next time we fight, it’s not on the same topic (or issue) 😛 



Life’s Interpretations!

They say, life is like a roller coaster ride! Well, yes, I feel the same. Because, like in a roller coaster ride, it happens so fast, in a matter of seconds.

Similarly, in life too, things happen, situations change, all in a matter of seconds.

At once,  I’m on cloud 9, up above there! Smiling and laughing, and, then suddenly, at an instant, I hit the ground with a thud. And it seems like, I’m buried deep inside the ground with chunks of sorrows and pain.

They say, Life is like fire! A friend and a foe.

Like friction! A necessary evil!

Like an uninvited guest! Full of surprises and shocks.

But, at the end, the show must go on!

Never ever stop!

I won’t say that, ‘don’t look back’ because sometimes it is necessary to look back, to realise the patterns we have knitted throughout our life span.

Isn’t it both amazing and astonishing, like how small things teach us big lessons.

I tried once, I failed! I tried again, but didn’t succeed. I kept trying a few more times but all in vain. I was totally frustrated and started looking here and there in frustration, and disparity overtook me. But, as I was about to give up and about to accept that all my efforts has gone to a total waste, my gaze dropped to my hands and I went back in time when I was a kid. I remembered the time when as a kid, I couldn’t write properly with either of my hands. It took me around 4 to 5 years to write comfortably with my right hand.

Whenever, you feel like losing hope and feel like all your efforts have gone to a total waste, grab a piece of paper and a pen, and try to scribble anything on the paper, first with your right hand and then with your left hand. While doing so, you’ll realise that you can write easily with one of your hands (for instance, right hand) as compared to other (for instance, left hand). Isn’t it? Why? Because your right hand has practiced it continuously for years! Today you can write properly with your right hand because you practiced again and again and didn’t give up. It was not a matter of a few days or months but a matter of 5 whole years!

If you didn’t give up as a kid then why now?!

We need to learn that rigorous practice and hard work in the right direction, definitely brings out right and required results but losing hope is no solution. Only stable and continuous efforts do wonders!