So, I don’t know, why did I think about writing this, but here I am, telling you about this guy I met a few months ago. He was this great person with whom you can talk for the whole day without getting bored. I met him through a friend. With time we got along really well and I found him quite reliable. It was all cool and I kind of started liking him even more and then one day, he proposed me 🙂 and yes, I accepted his proposal and we are now officially together. 🙂
People, I seriously don’t have any intention to drive you nuts from my relationship story. So, let’s cut to the chase and get it straight. Before I start, i would like to acknowledge that sometimes, the things don’t work out the way we want them to. Sometimes, we portray perfection too much. Sometimes, things just don’t fall into place but, that is where we need to change the angle of our perception and understand that this is where the real beauty lies. 🙂
So, my boyfriend and I were having this short conversation about relationships and I figured out that he is the one who believes in having those so-called ‘perfect relationships‘. What he thinks is, that a real relationship (or his so-called perfect relationship) is the one in which a couple doesn’t get involved in fights at all. He says that, he expects a lot from me regarding this and wants this sort of understanding with me, so that no fight occurs and we get along well through everything and all and be this amazing couple thing (Whoosh!). He generally tries to escape the topics,(by skipping it altogether or by starting a whole different conversation) that he thinks might lead to arguments. Although, we had a very few fights but the ending always left me confused. There is only sorry but no solution. It’s like after a little fight, it’s simply a sorry and he never tries to get back to the topic and hence we are left with no solution at all. I respect him but here, I simply don’t believe in his whole lot of ‘perfection‘ thing and ‘happily-ever-after‘ fairy tale concept. I mean, all I want is him to understand is the ‘beauty of imperfection‘ here.
I mean, tell me this, can you gimme a single example of any best friends or any amazing couple who never ever had a fight? can you? No! I guess and that’s where the beauty lies. Pardon me if you’re getting me wrong here. When I’m referring to fights, it’s not the one like throwing each other’s stuff out of the apartment or yelling bad words for each other and I’m also not saying that even if there’s no point of arguing, you still have to get started. All I’m saying is, these little cute fights and arguments have their unique roles in our life and sometimes, careful steps following them, make a relationship even stronger. 🙂 like Jay Sean says “I know it’s supposed to be all rosy but roses come with their thorns (worth it all)” 🙂 Fights are inevitable in a relationship and rather than escaping a topic every time, fearing that it would lead to a fight, we should just try to act more mature and face it and enjoy it’s bitter-sweet results. I mean, that’s how the life goes on. You can’t enjoy the good days without having bad ones. We must realize that these little fights are necessary because they give you a reflection of your maturity level in a relationship. We will have to be an optimist and view these fights and arguments as a kind of test which we’ve to pass to mold ourselves into our better versions for our better halves.
Amazing couples are not those who escape topics just to avoid fights but those who act mature, understand each other’s choices and opinions even if they are polar opposite and try to find the best alternative solutions to resolve any conflict. If we will keep escaping things to save ourselves from arguments just for the sake of ‘happily-ever-after’, then trust me, we won’t actually be happy ever after. We must understand that all of us share similarities and differences, and with so many similarities and differences, fights are inevitable, amazing couples are those who can embrace each other’s similarities and value the differences. They learn something valuable from every fight so that the next time they fight, it’s not on the same topic or issue 😛